In life things will come at us that we have no control and/or no answers. We face situations everyday in life, we plan our lives, and we map out our strategies as we plan our future. There are times we hit dead end streets, road blocks and detours. We have to roll with the flow, learn to carry emergency equipment (phone numbers of friends, Bible & even a passenger or two), as we learn we can’t do it on our own no matter how hard we try. Life doesn’t give us guarantees, but it does give us a roadmap.
When you deal with a family member going through some major changes in life, it affects the entire family. If its health related, it can take a toll on everyone. There will be times you have to make decisions. There are no right answers; there are only situations you have to come to grips with as you make decisions. Not everyone is going to be pleased or satisfied, but you must do what you feel is best with the knowledge & information you have to present.
I worked as a Social Worker, dealing with advanced aging, Dementia and Alzheimer. When you deal with people outside your family, it’s a different matter. In dealing with a family member going through Dementia, your training & knowledge goes out the window. You see a different side of it. I’m learning a whole different process & learning there are things I didn’t know before. You have to weigh the options, decide what’s best & go forward.
God and I are having many conversations daily, as I remind myself of what’s going on & what’s about to come about. I don’t know if I can handle all that is coming my way, but I know God can. So the days I feel overwhelmed & the days I really need answers fast, I know God is my refuge & I know God sends people into my life to be of assistance. I just need to remind myself to let them assist, let them help & I need to remember I’m not alone in this world.
I’m human, I do have meltdowns, I do have days I question myself – I believe that’s normal. There are days I don’t understand & days I feel I’m at a standstill. I believe God never gives us more than we can handle. As someone recently told me, they feel God must feel I’m really strong – I guess so, because I feel at times I’m at a tennis court practicing my swing & the balls are coming at me with record speed. I pray I hit a few & pray I dodge a few & know that God is protecting me from the ones coming at me I don’t see.
Some of my favorite verses come from Psalms, I carried with me a list of scriptures when I was going through various testing for Cancer years ago & it gave me hope.
Psalms 46:1 “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”
Psalms 62:8 “Trust in him at all times. Pour out your heart before him. God is a refuge for us.”
